At times being a non-profit agency is a little scary. Will we be able to find the funding to provide services or won’t we? But, thanks to our wonderful community, we are making it so far. Therefore, at this time of the year when we remember the greatest gift we all have been given, we would also like to remember and thank all of you who have worked so hard for Caring House and given so much. You are all truly amazing.
We also wanted to show you a picture of one of our youngest groups of donors, Girl Scout Troop 5190.
Have a Very, Merry Christmas!!!!
That’s right…it’s that time again. It’s time to eat great food, laugh until your stomach hurts, and win some awesome prizes.
Silent auction, 50/50 drawings, raffle prizes and door prizes
This year’s event will be held Thursday October 30, 2014
At the First Presbyterian Church in Kingsford
5PM to 8PM
$6 Each/ Children 5 & Under FREE!
Please join us for this annual event. You won’t be sorry. Our attendees love it and come back year after year.
On a serious note, by attending, you help to bring awareness to this tragedy in our community.
Have you taken a ride past the First Covenant Church on H Street in Iron Mountain, MI? Each cross you see displayed out in front represents one person from the Upper Peninsula who was killed in a Domestic Violence situation. Who will the next cross represent? Will it be your sister or brother? Your neighbor? A favorite teacher at the school? Your doctor’s wife? It could be anyone! You can’t tell if someone is a victim by looking at them. They look like me or you. Wounds aren’t always visible. Victims are very, very good at pretending everything is ok.
Are you aware of the Domestic Violence in this world? Do you care? Every football fan in the United States should know…watch the video of Ray Rice hitting his wife. Listen to sports personnel talk about how hundreds of cases of Domestic Violence have been covered up. We all think that good old guy we know couldn’t do such a thing, why he’s a great guy and fun to be around (unless he comes home to you each night). Each and every one of us should be more aware. Abusers get away with it because they can. Nobody wants to get involved. If you see something or hear something that you think may be abuse call the police, that’s the only way this will end. Don’t keep SILENT!!! We need everyone to make abusers accountable for their actions.
One way you can help is to come out to our annual “Break the Silence, Stop the Violence” procession, if you are able. We will meet at The Dickinson County Sheriff’s Department between noon & 12:15 on Tuesday October 14th. This year we will be joined by the MI Bikers Helping Veterans Motorcycle group, followed by area law enforcement with sirens blaring, followed by cars honking their horns. If you can drive or ride in a car and honk a horn you can join us. The procession will proceed to Caring House where refreshments will be served. We need YOU!!
Let’s make some changes and shake up this county, so we can shake up this state, so we can shake up our country and shake up the world. Let’s make this world a safer place.
Now isn’t that a tricky question? I mean, what sane person would continue to be with someone who abuses them?
If you have never been in an abusive relationship, this seems like the simple answer. But then again, shouldn’t the question be, “Why does the other person have the right to abuse?”
There are many reasons a person stays. They are as varied and complex as the people involved. Here are some of the reasons:
1. Love: The abuser is still the person the victim loves. The abuser has times when he/she is VERY charming. One victim stated “I kept thinking that this time when things were good, surely he would like our life together in this good time so much that he would not want to bring on the bad times again. He promised me he would change.” Maybe the abuser will change…at least that’s the victim’s hope.
2. Society/Religion : The victim feels she/he made a committment before God to this relationship. Or the abusive person appears so different to the outside world that the victim feels no one would believe the monster the abuser can be.
3. Isolation: Gradually, the abuser takes steps to keep the victim from other people. Maybe the victim can’t have anything to do with family or friends, isn’t allowed to work or attend activities, or can’t have telephone conversations. There have even been instances of victims being imprisoned in their own homes.
4. Fear: Fear of retaliation if he/she leaves. Threats may have been made against the victim, children, or the victim’s family and friends. Victims have a 75% greater risk of being murdered by their partner during or after they leave the relationship.
5. Financial Limitations: The victim may have limited financial resources…no job, low-paying work, fear of homelessness, etc.
6. Fear of Losing Children: The victim may have been led to believe she/he won’t be able to keep their children.
7. Pets: The victim may not be able to take a pet they love. She/he doesn’t want to leave the pet alone with the abuser, in fear of the pet then being abused.
8. Lack of Self Esteem People with self-esteem issues may feel they don’t have what it takes to make it on their own. They may feel they deserve what happens to them. They may have been told by the abuser that no one else would ever want them.
As you can see, the reasons are varied. It’s difficult for many people to leave the perceived safety of what they know for the unknown. Victims don’t need to be re-victimized by those who think they should just leave. We need to build each other up, not tear each other down.
Hey everybody-It’s that time of year!!!! Amazing event!!! Hilarious fun!! Mysterious mayhem!!!
Pine Grove Country Club
Friday March 7th & Saturday March 8th 2014
Dinner choices are salmon or beef tenderloin
$40 per ticket-no tickets at the door
Buy your tickets now because ticket sales end February 31, 2014
Domestic violence thrives when we are silent; but if we take a stand and work together, we can end it. Throughout the month of October, Caring House will be hosting awareness activities and encourages your participation.
- Cross Display-First Covenant Church on “H” Street in Iron Mountain. Dedication of the crosses will be at 8:00 AM on September 30th.
- Break the Silence-October 8th at 12:00 Noon-Meet at the Dickinson County Sheriff’s Department-Procession from the Sheriff’s Department to Caring House-Open House at Caring House 12:30 PM to 4:00 PM.
- Celebrity Waiter’s Spaghetti Dinner and Silent Auction-October 24th, First Presbyterian Church 5:00 PM to 8:00 PM.
- Paint the City Purple-Local businesses will be displaying purple ribbons
- Purple Ribbon Campaign-wear a purple ribbon to demonstrate your support towards ending the violence. Ribbons can be picked up at Caring House.
Some interesting facts about domestic violence:
- One in every four women will experience domestic violence in her lifetime.
- An estimated 1.3 million are victims of physical assault by an intimate partner each year.
- Most cases of domestic violence are never reported to the police.
On May 18th, 2013 Caring House held the second annual “Walk a Mile in Her Shoes” event in Norway, MI to raise awareness and funding for the victims of domestic and sexual violence.
Just as it’s uncomfortable for these brave men to be walking in women’s shoes, it’s also uncomfortable, at the very least, to live in a situation where you are afraid or have been assaulted. We are so grateful to the men who were willing to make a difference.
Here are some pictures of this event: