A group of nursing students from Bay De Noc West has been doing a class project about domestic violence. They are collecting donations for Caring House, they have given a presentation at the college along with advocate Marti Swisher, and they put together a short video about domestic violence. This wonderful group of students has done a great job and we are very excited to have partnered with them.
If you would like to view the video it has been published on the Caring House Facebook page.
That’s right…it’s that time again. It’s time to eat great food, laugh until your stomach hurts, and win some awesome prizes.
Silent auction, 50/50 drawings, raffle prizes and door prizes
This year’s event will be held Thursday October 30, 2014
At the First Presbyterian Church in Kingsford
5PM to 8PM
$6 Each/ Children 5 & Under FREE!
Please join us for this annual event. You won’t be sorry. Our attendees love it and come back year after year.
On a serious note, by attending, you help to bring awareness to this tragedy in our community.
Have you taken a ride past the First Covenant Church on H Street in Iron Mountain, MI? Each cross you see displayed out in front represents one person from the Upper Peninsula who was killed in a Domestic Violence situation. Who will the next cross represent? Will it be your sister or brother? Your neighbor? A favorite teacher at the school? Your doctor’s wife? It could be anyone! You can’t tell if someone is a victim by looking at them. They look like me or you. Wounds aren’t always visible. Victims are very, very good at pretending everything is ok.
Are you aware of the Domestic Violence in this world? Do you care? Every football fan in the United States should know…watch the video of Ray Rice hitting his wife. Listen to sports personnel talk about how hundreds of cases of Domestic Violence have been covered up. We all think that good old guy we know couldn’t do such a thing, why he’s a great guy and fun to be around (unless he comes home to you each night). Each and every one of us should be more aware. Abusers get away with it because they can. Nobody wants to get involved. If you see something or hear something that you think may be abuse call the police, that’s the only way this will end. Don’t keep SILENT!!! We need everyone to make abusers accountable for their actions.
One way you can help is to come out to our annual “Break the Silence, Stop the Violence” procession, if you are able. We will meet at The Dickinson County Sheriff’s Department between noon & 12:15 on Tuesday October 14th. This year we will be joined by the MI Bikers Helping Veterans Motorcycle group, followed by area law enforcement with sirens blaring, followed by cars honking their horns. If you can drive or ride in a car and honk a horn you can join us. The procession will proceed to Caring House where refreshments will be served. We need YOU!!
Let’s make some changes and shake up this county, so we can shake up this state, so we can shake up our country and shake up the world. Let’s make this world a safer place.
Domestic violence takes many forms: physical, mental, emotional, financial, sexual, etc. One thing all these forms have in common is that they affect not only the abused partner but also the children. Domestic violence is sometimes called “Family Violence” . Children who witness acts of violence are at much greater risk of emotional and behavioral problems than other children. Estimates indicate there are over 4 million children exposed to physical and verbal partner abuse each year in the U.S. Exposure means seeing or hearing the actual abuse or dealing with the aftermath of the abuse. It should also be noted that children in these families are also at much greater risk of being abused themselves.
The effects on children in families with domestic violence can be short-term or/and long-term. It is a traumatic and terrifying experience for children. Some of the short and long-term effects are listed here. Children will react in different ways. Some children are extremely resilient while others show severe signs of stress.
Short Term Effects
- Nightmares or trouble sleeping
- Illnesses caused by stress such as headaches, stomach problems, flu and asthma
- Aggressive or destructive behavior
- Cruelty to animals
- Becoming increasingly anxious or fearful
- Social withdrawal
- Blaming themselves for the abuse
- Poor school performance
Long Term Effects
- Allowing future victimization of themselves
- Drug and alcohol dependence
- Behaving in abusive ways in adult relationships
- Teenage pregnancy
- Low self-esteem
- Post traumatic stress disorder
Some ways to help a child victim of domestic abuse are: reassure the child that the incidents are not their fault, obtain counseling for family victims, show them love, protect them by moving them to a place of safety, and be a good role model.
Seeking help to take action against the abuse shows your child that it is not acceptable to treat people in that manner or be treated that way.
Do you need guidance? Call your local shelter/domestic violence agency.
You know what abuse is, right? It’s hitting, punching, slapping, biting, beating, pushing, kicking or shaking.
But that’s not all. If your partner calls you awful names, threatens you, humiliates you in public, or continually criticizes you, then that is abuse. If your partner throws things at you, forces to do anything sexual that you don’t want to, won’t let you get proper medical care, destroys your property or won’t let you seek work, that’s abuse. If your partner controls you financially, isolates you from people who are important to you, locks you out of or in your house, follows and spies on you, that’s abuse.
All abuse leaves scars, sometimes physical, sometimes mental and sometimes both. All abuse forces you to live in fear.
We at Caring House are not here to make you leave your partner. We are here to give you tools to use in your life to help you make the decisions that are right for you, not for us, and not for your friends. Our services are free and confidential. If you just want to talk, we are here. Give us a call.